A KC & The Sunshine Band concert at the House of Blues: this is where I first experienced how having fun helps discover genius. A successful, rising star lawyer, I was out for an evening with friends. What most people didn’t know was that I felt like I was losing in the game of life. I didn’t know who I was. And while I was very good at my job, I felt fear and doubt all the time about whether I was moving in the right career direction. Working in the criminal justice system, I was surrounded by people who woke up every day with purpose. Yet, I didn’t feel connected to my inner passion.
That night at the concert, I locked eyes with this incredible back-up dancer. I couldn’t stop watching her. She was JLo-level awesomeness set to old school disco tunes. She was having fun! It hit me: fun! THAT’s what I needed. I didn’t know what to do with my life, but I knew in that moment, I’d sure love to dance!
I always loved dance. As a little girl I twirled around my living room lost in creating my own FlashDance free-style dance moves to the 80s hits of the day. I tried a dance class once, but dropped out feeling intimidated because I couldn’t pick up the choreography quick like the other girls. In 6th grade, taking matters into my own hands, I choreographed a skit for the school talent show and brought in two other girls to perform with me to Janet Jackson’s then mega hit, Control. In 8th grade, I had a blast as co-captain for the cheerleading and dance squad.
Thereafter, my passion for dance faded into the background due to two tragedies. My mom passed away right before my 8th grade cheerleading competition, so I dropped out. And then when I tried out for cheerleading in high school, I didn’t make the cut. Again, probably because I had trouble picking up on other people’s choreography, the judges didn’t see my talent.
So that night at the KC concert – something awoke inside of me. I wondered “How could I create some of this magical fun in my life now?”
Luckily, at the time, I had a creative and unabashed friend in my life known as “Big Gay Jim.” (The universe always sends us exactly what and who we need.) Jim was following his artistic talents running a small theater company. He put on variety shows and musicals that were performed at the Elbo Room in Chicago. I asked if I could choreograph and perform in a skit in his upcoming show, and forever changing my life, he said “yes.”
I had a major role in his next two productions and had So. Much. Fun!!!
What I know now is that the fun of those several months of performing was essential to my larger transformation that was occurring. By reconnecting to fun, I was reconnecting to myself. I could hear the whispers of my heart and where it was guiding me. Soon after, I left my legal career to pursue what I discovered was my greatest passion: empowering women and girls to be their truest selves through creating awesome careers.
And now, I teach my clients - who are looking for clarity in a new career path - how having fun helps discover their inner genius. When you don’t yet know where you want go in your career, fun is the place to start. Why? Because we are energy. And feeling joy is the highest energy vibration available. There are lower, less fun vibrations of course like: powerlessness, fear, frustration, and apathy. And while you’re in those lower vibrations, you attract more into your life of that energy (hello unhappy professional life!).
When you bring yourself up to the level of joy – through pure fun – you begin clarifying what feels good to you and then attract more of that into your life. And you literally create magic!
Today, you may feel stuck and unsure of where your career is going. But when you bring regular doses of fun into your life – you begin to notice people and opportunities show up that had previously seemed crazy or out of reach. Magic is real – and fun is your entry point! So, my friends, go out there and have ridiculous fun! You’ll find yourself and your genius along the way! I promise.