Updated: Mar 10
Business mogul Oprah Winfrey has advised, “Often intuition will direct you. If it feels right, it probably is right.” In the career and business setting, indeed intuition can be a guiding force toward what is right for you, but it can also guide you away from what is wrong for you. In this week’s blog, you’ll learn how your anxious feelings are worth listening to as they may be women’s intuition guiding you away from a wrong turn.
Your Anxiety is Guiding You to Something Better
Recently, an organization invited me to speak at their big annual women’s conference. We had an exhilarating meeting about what they were looking for in a speaker and how I could serve the audience. The conversation ended with an agreement. Not long after the call and throughout the day, I felt anxious and experienced a churning in my stomach.
Traditional advice for coping with anxiety is to breathe through it and push forward, but that’s not what I did on this occasion. Instead, I stopped and asked, “Is my intuition offering me some wisdom here?” I took a few minutes, got quiet, and listened. What I realized was that the promises I made were much more than I wanted to deliver given the terms of our agreement. The agreement felt out of alignment for me.
With that wisdom from my intuition, I reflected on how I could make the situation an opportunity I would be able to deliver at my best and still offer the essence of what the organization asked for. That evening, before I went to bed, I wrote an email to the head of the organization with a new proposal. A few days later, she wrote back, “I couldn’t have seen your new proposal as a fit when we first spoke, but we ended up having a change in the lineup for our event that makes your offer a perfect fit.”
How about that? That anxiety was my intuition guiding me away from a wrong turn and on to something better. It served as a warning signal. Following my feelings allowed me to make a better deal for everyone.
Intuition Flows From Feminine Energy
We speak of “women’s intuition” and refer more often to women having “a sixth sense” because these multi-sensory traits require being open, receptive, and allowing something to be channeled through you. These are qualities associated with feminine energy, or the yin side of the yin and yang balancing energies. Masculine energy, on the other hand, is more logical, goal-oriented, and seeks to build.
Men and women have access to both feminine and masculine energy, but feminine energy feels more like your home base if you identify as primarily feminine. When that is true for you, intuition is at the forefront of how you operate. And if this is so, you want to pay attention to it!
Anxiety sufferers are so often told to take deep breaths and push forward. This advice is very fitting for operating in masculine energy. This type of advice often does not feel right around a decision-making process if you identify as feminine. In your feminine energy, that anxiety is often an inner signal trying to help you get into alignment, as was the case in my story.
Following intuition is important for women in the workplace in particular because it helps bring forth your best gifts and helps you operate in a state of radiance, meaning a state of alignment, harmony, and love. Remember the Care Bears? Being radiant is like the way Care Bears shared love beams from their heart. This is something that women truly bring into the world when in the highest state of consciousness. For example, when I’m working with a client and I’m in alignment, harmony, and love, I bring so much more value.
Two Questions to Help You Tap Into Your Intuition
To determine when feelings of anxiety are your intuition speaking, ask the following questions:
1. How is this feeling guiding me to something more helpful?
Consider how anxiety might be guiding you to something that would help you thrive and feel more comfortable with the situation. And then trust that wisdom!
2. How can I bring radiance into this situation?
Consider how you can do your work in a way that will bring a state of joy, love, and harmony and if your anxious feelings are showing you something in this situation that would block you from sharing your radiance.
When answering these questions, you may find that you need to say “no” to an opportunity, or you may need to make an adjustment so that the situation works better for you. You may feel some resistance to this at first. It may feel uncomfortable to request a change, but listening to anxiety and intuition will make a positive impact on your work and everyone involved. It is always guiding you to a better way.
Keep this story and wisdom in mind when you have those uncomfortable feelings within. And, next time anxiety hits, consider that there’s something to listen to in that moment. Listening to your inner wisdom will help you bring the best you have to offer to your work. Just like Oprah said, intuition can act as a guide towards what’s good and right for your path, but sometimes intuition also guides you away from what doesn’t work. On the surface, something can look like a great opportunity, but listening to your intuition allows you to judge what opportunities are the right fit and which ones may need to be adjusted. This allows you to bring your genius to work and serve more people.
May this advice bless you on your path forward.
*In honor of Women’s History Month, this is part 1 of a 4-part series all about feminine energy.
About the Author
Gina Marotta is a career coach and speaker teaching and inspiring people to unleash their genius. She is a former defense attorney for some of Chicago’s highest profile criminal cases, served as Managing Director for a national nonprofit catalyzing career advancement for women and girls, and has been featured in media outlets like: Thrive Global, The Huffington Post, and WGN Radio. She has also been named 50 Under 50 and among 100 Women Making a Difference.